Post 3: Society In Different Shades

Are you a product of a complete or broken family? Did your parents raise you successfully? If you were raised in a broken family, how did you overcome this situation? And for those who were in complete family, how do you feel about people on your opposite situation? How does having a broken family affect society? These are some questions that I asked during my interview with different types of people who have different experiences and perspectives in life.

And after hearing different testimonies and insights from people who grew up in either a complete or broken family, these are the results. Some people from a complete family say that they pity and felt sad for those people who are in a broken family because they knew how happy it is having a complete family; while some say that even they are complete, they still feel like they lack something even though they were given proper education because their parents just don’t care. One of them, who are a part of a broken family, told me that they overcame their situation because they helped each other by getting their strength from one another. Someone also said that instead of complaining, they just used their situation as an inspiration to pursue their dreams.

Going back to my previous blogs, a bond of a family is one of the important things to make the family strong. It is one of the major things that would affect each and everyone’s life. As Art Buchwald say “Family is the basic unit of the society.” Everything starts at home. Inside the four corners of the house, you will grow, learn things, and develop your thinking. A person’s attitude would manifest on how the society is right now

But what is happening in our society these days? According to different articles and forums, we are in the generation wherein the society is polluted by lots of riots, chaos, crimes, racism, unwanted teenage pregnancies, drug users and more. How did a broken family become a reason for these things?

Well according to my interaction with some people, One said “children who grew up in a broken family is a big problem to the society because there are possibilities that they might go in the wrong path in life, because no one was there to guide them all throughout, to correct them and because of that, sometimes what they think is wrong is right.” Another said that "some became delinquents, they become rebellious. That's why numerous crimes happen; many are jailed, many died, and a lot of people are affected."


Like on what happen in Britain. Broken Families were to be blame on the riots and chaos in their country, while searching on what really happen in this incident I came across to this article, "Broken societies need strong families – Ask Britain!" David Cameron,(British prime minister) says, that the solution to the problem, is families: “So if we want to have any hope of mending our broken society, family and parenting is where we've got to start.”

Maybe if broken families were reduced, there will be a decrease in crimes. I was even shocked while researching this; that it had something to do with our society today. It made me realize about a lot of things, that this is an alarming message for everybody.

But not everyone from a broken home caused chaos in our society. People shouldn't look down on them; things really happen for a reason, great or small. And from every circumstance, we should learn that we shouldn't get revenge, but to start a change.

Post 2: Broken Society

How does broken family really affect the society? Does it bring harm to the society? Are they a big head ache to other people? Is it really considered as a social issue?

According to Alaissa Nerriel

“Broken family is a major problem of the society that should be given enough attention.”

I was wondering how people respond, react or feel with people who grew up in broken families. Are people aware and do they care about how they feel?  An article, written by Katie Razzal in 2011, caught my attention after doing a bunch of research about how people, living in this situation, affect the society: “Can society afford not to fix 'broken families'? “

It stated that the broken families were to be blame on the riot that was happening in UK that time and we might prevent this by giving them the proper attention, most especially the children by therapy and counseling as early as possible. Because it might lead to depression and anti-social behaviors while growing up.

People have different perspectives. For me it’s on how they are being raised, positively and negatively. On one hand, if they were raised up by people with positive outlook in life, then theirs will be positive as well. Success in life is a big chance. On the other hand, if they were raised up by people who have negative perspective in life, then theirs will be negative as well. Possibly, they could be a huge problem in the society. However, if they were being raised with counseling from people with proper thinking, then they will have a better life ahead and they will not be a headache in the society. Thus, counseling is advised to be done at the very early stage.

Professor Peter Fonagy FBA, a psychologist at UCL and The Anna Freud Centre put it more simply: "This is the most important issue affecting society. Because of how the brain develops, it is easiest and most cost-effective to intervene early."

We do not really notice why people have differences. If we carefully take a look at other people’s lives, why they have such negative thoughts, we can say that the upbringing is an important cause. Therefore, it is advisable to have counseling while young.

Brain development affects society. According to Alasdair Palmer, Early Intervention of parents can make a tremendous contribution in improving our society.

If people respond to these issues as early as possible, we can resolve things that are happening. In our present society, having broken family may be a big factor leading on to the actions of people in our society. Others may not notice but - yes, this situation creates a big impact on society’s morals, values and actions. Regardless of the issues between partners, they should’ve been more responsible because the future of a child is in their hands. Awareness regarding this issue could help partners or parents have better family planning, thus giving more importance to the future and welfare of the child. Values and morals that build the foundation of the family could be passed on from generation to generation. Though it may not be easy or quick to resolve the issue, if one starts now – change is still possible. Let’s start inside the family.

Post 1: "A Tree With Broken Branches"

A family consists of people, not necessarily blood related, who are faithful to you whether you’ll be or not. They give you the fullness of joy and make you cry because of such laughter. They are the reason why you exist and they will be with you no matter what. But what would you feel if one of your parents leaves not because they need to go, but because they want to? How does it feel to be a part of a broken family? How do people who grow up into this situation react to this?

Being in a broken family would be one of the hardest parts in someone’s life. No man wants to be placed into a situation where one can’t find a shoulder to cry on or another heart to share your happiness with. I, myself, have experienced this situation. My dad used to work abroad to support the needs of the family, while my mom chose to stay at home and fulfill her role as a house wife. Though at an early age my dad had left us because for another woman and my mom was force to leave and work in abroad to support my needs. Because of this, I had to adjust to different guardians’ ways of raising their children. Now that I’m older and able to think on my own, I still wonder how it would feel to grow up in a ‘stereotypical’ kind of family.

They say that people find closure in others who can relate to their own experiences. As I was reading different articles regarding people who have experienced the same things as I have, I found an article that had sparked interest in me. Alaissa Nerriel’s blog in Blogger, “broken family article”, had caught my attention. It inspired me to think more about my situation, and how to overcome it. She gave her own insight about what a family is and stated the difference between a complete and broken family. Though in her article, I've noticed that it was obvious she was simply stating facts but not out of experience. In my blog, I want to share my own opinions and feelings regarding this topic.

The article shows that a home is not a home without the bond that each of the family members share physically, emotionally, socially and manifests and affects through each of the member's lives. The people who are a part of a complete family have more of a chance to be with both set of parents, who can look after their children with more love and attention than those with a broken family. Most often, these children graduate with flying colors, and are more than capable of handling their problem head on.

Meanwhile, those within a broken family are a complete contrast. Teenagers that grew up in a broken family do not graduate, and suffer from emotional stress, depression and most often lead to suicide. But not everyone from a broken family grew up in negativity, as some have learned through their experience and led them to success. It is because of their experience living in a broken home inspired them to have a happier family than the ones they grew up in.

But for me, it doesn't matter if one is in a broken family; it all depends on the parent who handles the situation, whether or not they've given the warmth of their love for their children to make up the lack of another leading adult, and how they handle their situation. If they go through it with confidence and careful thought, I think the child will grow up as normal as any children that grew up in a normal and complete home.

“The impact of having a broken home usually manifests in the adolescence of the child experiencing the trauma of separation. It may cause an internal conflict which may result to depression, anxiety, disobedience, aggression and low self-esteem. “

According to Alaissa Nerriel’s blog, it would create a big impact on a person’s life to experience this. My mom always says, “Everything starts in a place where you call home”. I have been in a point where I felt insecure with my classmates, who all came with both their parents during school events, distribution of class cards, recognition and all. But my mom always assured me that I shouldn't feel as such. She always made me feel that I’m precious and secured, that I’m the best among the rest. She never spoiled me, and she disciplines me without going too far. Single parents must show more affection to their children, as well as explain things at the right time as to not make things complicated, and tell it when it's already too late.

Well for me, being in a complete or broken family does not matter as long as the love and affection in the family is present. All the child needs is more love, special care, extra time, attention and emotional support. My family is my weakness and in my situation, I made my weakness to be my strength. Let your weakest point be your strength. Misunderstandings, problems and circumstances are really part of any relationship; it’s how you handle situations. In the end, they’re still your family no matter what.