When you say divorce, the next thing that comes to one’s mind is having a broken family.
How do you consider a divorce? How do you see having a broken family? How do you find children opened in this situation at an early age? Are you bothered? Is it a positive or negative thing for you? Is it really a big deal?
For most people they see broken families and divorce as a negative thing, because they say that a typical family is always complete; it has a mother, father and their children and also because the negative side is more evident than the positive side.
According to some articles that I've read, children in broken families are usually in pain, shocked full of anger that could to lead numerous crimes; they become rebellious, depressed, that engages them to use drugs and drink alcohol. They become depressed and find revenge and a lot more things. It's also stated that they could even kill themselves if they are not able to handle the situation anymore. But, on the other hand some say that divorce and separation should be considered positive. One example is Lisa Ling and Delaine, They wrote articles about the positive side about broken families.
An article of Cathy Meyer: “My Kids Witness Broken Families – And it’s a Positive Thing.” Delaine is a parent, ever since she was young; she was used of her friends encountering such situation. All she thinks whenever she hears another story is that her friends' life is doomed because at her time “child of divorce was marked with fear and shame.” It is fine for her that her children is exposed to TV shows that portrays broken families like Drake and Josh that shows blended family and iCarly that shows absence of parents. As she stated, “I like being there to field my kids’ questions and discuss issues these programs address.” She even stated that she is happy that her kids are having healthy young role models that don’t come from the perfect nuclear family.
Another story is Lisa Ling’s experience, when she was at the age of seven her parents divorced. For her, it was the best thing that happen in her life because, she believed that her parents are not really meant for each other. And instead of stressing out their selves it’s better for them to separate. After the divorce of her parents, they (her sister and Lisa) experienced two different kinds of lifestyles with two different people. Their parents even became friends after that incident.
I never thought that there was actually a positive side of this kind of situation. As I read different kinds of opinions and stories, I tried to look back on my experience and realized that there were actually positive sides behind it. I became stronger (mentally and emotionally), I was able to know my talents and abilities because all I wanted was attention (I never knew that it was actually positive), and I also strived to be in the honors, it changed my perspective and my outlook towards life, I became more optimistic and thing changed and was inverted around. I realized that It is good to see things positively, than looking on the negative side of a condition.
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