Post 11: Blended Families

Have you ever imagine how are you going to be if you are part of a blended family?

A Blended Family is a family formed from broken families. According to Merriam Webster, “Blended Family is a family that includes children of a previous marriage of one spouse or both.” As I was researching random things about broken family and divorce I was brought to this site “Separation and Divorce”  According to Family TLC, Blended families are: “Children accepting a step parent and step siblings, the introduction of half-siblings resulting in jealousy and family conflict, starting a relationship with a step child and learning how to parent both biological children and step children in a harmonious manner.” I think anything that is close with this kind of situation.

According to Nikki Philipps’ article “Blended Families: Merging Two Families Under One Roof”

“…trying to raise the children of your spouse or partner from a previous marriage or relationship is a trial by error task at best”

It would be a very hard task and a bold decision for the two different parents to merge their families in one home. It should be a bold decision and children must be well-oriented about this.

Let us use Drake and Josh (a children TV show) as an example, it is a movie about blended families. It’s a story about two teenage guys (Drake and Josh) who became stepbrothers because their parents got married. They have a very complete opposite personality; Drake is a “heartthrob-type” of guy that every girl dreams of, he’s role is like a cool and mesmerizing type of person, while Josh is the nerdy and dork type of guy. It’s really unimaginable for them to be patch up. But, eventually everything went well and they considered themselves as if they were biological brothers.

For their case, I think Drake and Josh’s parents in the story handled the situation well because, even though at first it was kind of awkward and unusual; they were able to manage it and make things at ease. As you could see it is a very peculiar situation. Even though I never experience being in one, I could say that starting another family is not going to be easy, because each member of the family will be adjusting for a new environment, new people, new home and everything will not be at the usual situation as before. Although we all know that things are not going to be the same anymore, the best thing that anyone could do is to give a good orientation to children. Remember “Their future is in your hands.”

As I was researching for more information about blended families, I saw this article of Candice Lewis: “4 Benefits of Living in a Blended Family.”  Before I opened the link, I tried to brainstorm some benefits of being part of a blended family instead of thinking about the negative sides of it, and all I thought about was “People in this situation will have the opportunity of having a new beginning and they will have a bigger number of family members.” So I opened the link and read the 4 main benefits, which are: “Happier Parents, Extended Family, Higher Lifestyle and More number of role models”

What I learn about this, is to see the positive side of the every situation. Do not think about the problem instead; think about the solution to the problem. And before making a major decision we should think about the things that might happen and the people involved or are going to be affected by ones decision.